Release Shame Behind Asking for Help

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In a society where everything is performance-driven, we forget that we were never meant to hold it all alone. Somewhere along the way, we started believing that asking for help makes us incompetent or incapable. But to me, that belief has always felt like a myth.

If your goal is to build a big, successful, aligned life — it truly takes a tribe.

And while I do believe many responsibilities in life belong within our own autonomy, having systems and support in place will always carry you farther than trying to do everything on your own. Ironically, this is something I struggled with deeply for years.

Growing up low-income in a family of seven came with its lessons. My parents used a chore rotation system posted in the heart of our home. That structure helped us manage the chaos of life, and I’m grateful for the way those experiences shaped me — and this brand. But it also taught me something else:

Systems only work as long as the support behind them exists.

When that support disappears, the foundation starts to crack.

In my early adulthood, I tried to manage everything myself. From working two part-time jobs while going to university full-time, to essentially being the CEO of my own life, I found that the lack of support created holes in every foundation I tried to rebuild.

I held shame around asking for help because I believed that as an adult, I should be able to carry it all. That’s the expectation, right?

WRONG.

That mindset led straight to burnout and resentment. It activated full survival mode — where everything I did was fueled by hustle, fear, and ego.

No matter how much I tried to get ahead, I always felt buried. Anyone who wanted time or energy from me got what was left over, and it wasn’t much. I was overspent. I had nothing left to offer.

And because I was constantly overwhelmed, I fell into habits that were completely out of alignment with the life I was trying to create. My entire perspective became shaped by the shame of not being able to “juggle it all.”

Everything shifted the moment I gave myself permission to desire — and ask for — support.

I realized the shame wasn’t about the help itself. It was about the longing for support I never allowed myself to have.

I had to look myself in the mirror and ask:

Why do I believe I need to hold everything alone? Why must I be the one keeping it all together?

The answer came through softness:

I was never meant to be my only pillar.

Think of the pillars that uphold a structure. Without them, the building may still stand — but not for long. When the right support enters your life, the weight redistributes.

You breathe differently.

You rest differently.

Your foundation strengthens.

We forget how many steps it takes for someone to succeed. Society highlights the results, but not the blood, sweat, tears, and support behind the scenes. If you’re someone with big dreams — dreams larger than people expect or understand — remember this:

Your systems of support will create more flow, more ease, and more capacity for you to step into who you’re meant to be.

So soften the mindset that asking for help is shameful.

Let yourself desire support.

Let yourself be held by pillars that were always meant to stand with you.

And allow your life to expand because of it.